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Ser emigrante é….
7 Maio, 2008 · Sem Comentários
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Report of the 178th General Conference of the Church of Jesus Christ
13 Abril, 2008 · Sem Comentários
On this Sabath Day I would like to share with you the 178th Conference of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints that took place last weekend in Salt Lake City, USA.
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Mothers who know
8 Abril, 2008 · Sem Comentários
Julie B. Beck
Relief Society General President
There is eternal influence and power in motherhood.
In the Book of Mormon we read about 2,000 exemplary young men who were exceedingly valiant, courageous, and strong. “Yea, they were men of truth and soberness, for they had been taught to keep the commandments of God and to walk uprightly before him” (Alma 53:21). These faithful young men paid tribute to their mothers. They said, “Our mothers knew it” (Alma 56:48). I would suspect that the mothers of Captain Moroni, Mosiah, Mormon, and other great leaders also knew.
The responsibility mothers have today has never required more vigilance. More than at any time in the history of the world, we need mothers who know. Children are being born into a world where they “wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places” (Ephesians 6:12).1 However, mothers need not fear. When mothers know who they are and who God is and have made covenants with Him, they will have great power and influence for good on their children.
Mothers Who Know Bear Children
Mothers who know desire to bear children. Whereas in many cultures in the world children are “becoming less valued,”2 in the culture of the gospel we still believe in having children. Prophets, seers, and revelators who were sustained at this conference have declared that “God’s commandment for His children to multiply and replenish the earth remains in force.”3 President Ezra Taft Benson taught that young couples should not postpone having children and that “in the eternal perspective, children—not possessions, not position, not prestige—are our greatest jewels.”4
Faithful daughters of God desire children. In the scriptures we read of Eve (see Moses 4:26), Sarah (see Genesis 17:16), Rebekah (see Genesis 24:60), and Mary (see 1 Nephi 11:13–20), who were foreordained to be mothers before children were born to them. Some women are not given the responsibility of bearing children in mortality, but just as Hannah of the Old Testament prayed fervently for her child (see 1 Samuel 1:11), the value women place on motherhood in this life and the attributes of motherhood they attain here will rise with them in the Resurrection (see D&C 130:18). Women who desire and work toward that blessing in this life are promised they will receive it for all eternity, and eternity is much, much longer than mortality. There is eternal influence and power in motherhood.
Mothers Who Know Honor Sacred Ordinances and Covenants
Mothers who know honor sacred ordinances and covenants. I have visited sacrament meetings in some of the poorest places on the earth where mothers have dressed with great care in their Sunday best despite walking for miles on dusty streets and using worn-out public transportation. They bring daughters in clean and ironed dresses with hair brushed to perfection; their sons wear white shirts and ties and have missionary haircuts. These mothers know they are going to sacrament meeting, where covenants are renewed. These mothers have made and honor temple covenants. They know that if they are not pointing their children to the temple, they are not pointing them toward desired eternal goals. These mothers have influence and power.
Mothers Who Know Are Nurturers
Mothers who know are nurturers. This is their special assignment and role under the plan of happiness.5 To nurture means to cultivate, care for, and make grow. Therefore, mothers who know create a climate for spiritual and temporal growth in their homes. Another word for nurturing is homemaking. Homemaking includes cooking, washing clothes and dishes, and keeping an orderly home. Home is where women have the most power and influence; therefore, Latter-day Saint women should be the best homemakers in the world. Working beside children in homemaking tasks creates opportunities to teach and model qualities children should emulate. Nurturing mothers are knowledgeable, but all the education women attain will avail them nothing if they do not have the skill to make a home that creates a climate for spiritual growth. Growth happens best in a “house of order,” and women should pattern their homes after the Lord’s house (see D&C 109). Nurturing requires organization, patience, love, and work. Helping growth occur through nurturing is truly a powerful and influential role bestowed on women.
Mothers Who Know Are Leaders
Mothers who know are leaders. In equal partnership with their husbands, they lead a great and eternal organization. These mothers plan for the future of their organization. They plan for missions, temple marriages, and education. They plan for prayer, scripture study, and family home evening. Mothers who know build children into future leaders and are the primary examples of what leaders look like. They do not abandon their plan by succumbing to social pressure and worldly models of parenting. These wise mothers who know are selective about their own activities and involvement to conserve their limited strength in order to maximize their influence where it matters most.
Mothers Who Know Are Teachers
Mothers who know are always teachers. Since they are not babysitters, they are never off duty. A well-taught friend told me that he did not learn anything at church that he had not already learned at home. His parents used family scripture study, prayer, family home evening, mealtimes, and other gatherings to teach. Think of the power of our future missionary force if mothers considered their homes as a pre–missionary training center. Then the doctrines of the gospel taught in the MTC would be a review and not a revelation. That is influence; that is power.
Mothers Who Know Do Less
Mothers who know do less. They permit less of what will not bear good fruit eternally. They allow less media in their homes, less distraction, less activity that draws their children away from their home. Mothers who know are willing to live on less and consume less of the world’s goods in order to spend more time with their children—more time eating together, more time working together, more time reading together, more time talking, laughing, singing, and exemplifying. These mothers choose carefully and do not try to choose it all. Their goal is to prepare a rising generation of children who will take the gospel of Jesus Christ into the entire world. Their goal is to prepare future fathers and mothers who will be builders of the Lord’s kingdom for the next 50 years. That is influence; that is power.
Mothers Who Know Stand Strong and Immovable
Who will prepare this righteous generation of sons and daughters? Latter-day Saint women will do this—women who know and love the Lord and bear testimony of Him, women who are strong and immovable and who do not give up during difficult and discouraging times. We are led by an inspired prophet of God who has called upon the women of the Church to “stand strong and immovable for that which is correct and proper under the plan of the Lord.”6 He has asked us to “begin in [our] own homes”7 to teach children the ways of truth.
Latter-day Saint women should be the very best in the world at upholding, nurturing, and protecting families. I have every confidence that our women will do this and will come to be known as mothers who “knew” (Alma 56:48). In the name of Jesus Christ, amen.
NOTES
1. See Gordon B. Hinckley, “Standing Strong and Immovable,” Worldwide Leadership Training Meeting, Jan. 10, 2004, 21.
2. James E. Faust, “Challenges Facing the Family,” Worldwide Leadership Training Meeting, Jan. 10, 2004, 2.
3. “The Family: A Proclamation to the World,” Liahona, Oct. 2004, 49; Ensign, Nov. 1995, 102.
4. To the Mothers in Zion (pamphlet, 1987), 3.
5. See “The Family: A Proclamation to the World.“
6. Gordon B. Hinckley, Worldwide Leadership Training Meeting, Jan. 10, 2004, 20.
7. Gordon B. Hinckley, Worldwide Leadership Training Meeting, Jan. 10, 2004, 20.
Source: The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints
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Muslims and Mormons
3 Abril, 2008 · Sem Comentários
By David Haldane, Los Angeles Times Staff Writer
The Mormon Church has to be among the most outgoing on earth; in recent years its leaders have reached out to, among others, Latinos, Koreans, Catholics and Jews.
One of the most enthusiastic responses, however, has come from what some might consider a surprising source: U.S. Muslims.
“We are very aware of the history of Mormons as a group that was chastised in America,” says Maher Hathout, a senior advisor to the Muslim Public Affairs Council in Los Angeles. “They can be a good model for any group that feels alienated.”
Which perhaps explains an open-mosque day held last fall at the Islamic Center of Irvine. More than half the guests were Mormons.
“A Mormon living in an Islamic society would be very comfortable,” said Steve Young, a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints attending the event.
The sentiment is echoed by Muslims. “When I go to a Mormon church I feel at ease,” said Haitham Bundakji, former chairman of the Islamic Society of Orange County. “When I heard the president [of LDS] speak a few years ago, if I’d closed my eyes I’d have thought he was an imam.”
Though the relationship has raised eyebrows and provided ammunition for critics of both religions, Mormons and Muslims have deepening ties in the United States.
What binds them has little to do with theology: Mormons venerate Jesus as interpreted by founder Joseph Smith, while Muslims view Muhammad as god’s prophet. Based on shared values and a sense of isolation from mainstream America, the connection was intensified by 9/11 and cemented by the Southeast Asia tsunami. It is especially evident in Southern California, with large Mormons and Muslim populations.
The Mormon Church has become the biggest contributor to Buena Park-based Islamic Relief, touted by its administrators as the West’s largest Muslim-based charity. Relief officials say the church has donated $20 million in goods and services since the 2004 tsunami, equal to about 20% of the charity’s annual budget.
Brigham Young University in Utah, the church’s major institution of higher learning, features what is thought to be one of the world’s best programs for translating classic Islamic works from Arabic to English. Though created primarily for academic purposes, the results have impressed Muslims flattered by the close attention.
“It shows they have a keen interest in the Muslim world,” said Levent Akbarut, a member of the Islamic Congregation of La Cañada-Flintridge.
And Mormons and Muslims say they often are co-hosts of educational and social programs at which, though some may be angling for long-term doctrinal influence, very little open proselytizing of each other seems to take place. “We have a very close and friendly relationship,” said Keith Atkinson, West Coast LDS spokesman.Mormons “explain our faith to anyone who will listen” and “treat Muslims like anybody else,” said Elder Dallin H. Oaks, a member of the Quorum of the 12 Apostles, one of the church’s top governing bodies in Salt Lake City. But Oaks added that “we don’t preach to people who would be disenfranchised” or likely offended by the effort.
Arnold H. Green, a history professor at BYU, has traced how early Mormons in the 19th century were hounded by accusations that church founder Smith was the American Muhammad. The first Mormons angrily denied any connection to the Muslim prophet but gradually accepted some comparisons, particularly that both religions were founded by post-Christian prophets with strong sectarian views. “As the church grew into a global faith,” Green wrote in a 2001 essay, “its posture toward Islam became . . . more positive” until, today, “the two faiths have become associated in several ways, including Mormonism’s being called the Islam of America.”
Both religions strongly emphasize family. They tend toward patriarchy, believing in feminine modesty, chastity and virtue. And although Islam discourages dancing involving both sexes, Mormons report that church-sponsored “modesty proms” commonly draw Islamic youths.
Both faiths adhere to religion-based health codes, including prohibitions against alcohol, but Mormons and Muslims share something more: membership in quickly growing minority religions that many other Americans have sometimes viewed with suspicion and scorn.
“We both come from traditions where there has been persecution in the past and continues to be prejudice,” said Steve Gilliland, LDS director of Muslim relations for Southern California. “That helps us Mormons identify with Muslims.”
A recent national survey by the Pew Research Center for the People & the Press and the Pew Forum on Religion & Public Life found that although a thin majority of those polled expressed positive opinions of Muslims and Mormons, the number was significantly less than those favoring Roman Catholics or Jews.
More than half the respondents said they had little or no awareness of the precepts and practices of either faith. But 45% saw Islam as more likely than other religions to encourage violence, and 31% said that Mormons weren’t Christian.
Armand L. Mauss, a Mormon and professor emeritus of sociology at Washington State University specializing in religious movements, said that unlike mainstream Christians and Jews, Muslims and Mormons “tend to make fairly stringent demands for religious conformity on their members.” These practices, he said, include discouraging marriage outside the religion and observing dietary laws, such as the Mormon prohibition against tobacco, alcohol and caffeine.
But the clincher, according to Mauss, is that both communities “have been stung in recent years by the recurrence of scandals over which they have no control.” For Muslims, the obvious example is 9/11.
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Ainda a Carolina Michaëlis…
25 Março, 2008 · Sem Comentários
“… Isto é o fim do Mundo”.
Pivot
(Segue Vídeo 1′ 10″)
Se o incurável optimista Pangloss tivesse visto o vídeo da aula de Francês no 9.º C, só podia ter comentado que era o fim do Mundo. E foi. O vídeo, a boçalidade dos comentários de quem filmou, os ataques selváticos de quem atacou, a birra criminosa da delinquente a quem tiraram o telemóvel, a indiferença da maioria da turma pelo horror do que se estava a passar mostram o malogro do sistema administrado pelo Ministério da Educação.
“Ha… ha… ha…ha…ha”
“DÁ-ME O TELEMÓVEL!”
Há um caso exemplar no historial governativo socialista onde Maria de Lurdes Rodrigues podia ir buscar inspiração. Em Março de 2001, depois da queda da ponte de Entre-os-Rios, o ministro da tutela anunciou que se demitiria com efeitos imediatos. Foi a maneira consciente de mostrar responsabilidade.
“Sai da frente… sai da frente!”
Por favor, façam-me a justiça de não considerar sequer que estou a fazer comparações. A enorme crise que atravessa o sistema educativo em Portugal e a queda de uma ponte cheia de pessoas em cima, com as consequentes fatalidades, são situações de gravidade específica que não toleram comparações. O que digo é que a decisão de Jorge Coelho de se retirar de funções porque a ponte de Entre-os-Rios era responsabilidade de vários departamentos do seu ministério, é o modelo de comportamento governativo.
“Ó Rui, ó Rui, ó Ruizinho!”
Maria de Lurdes Rodrigues tem um tremendo desastre entre mãos e contribuiu directamente para ele com as suas políticas de desrespeito de toda a classe docente e com o incompreensível arrazoado de privilégios estatutários garantísticos aos discentes, que estão a condenar toda uma geração e a comprometer o futuro de todo um país.
“Ó gorda, ó p (…), sai daí!”
Depois de todos termos, finalmente, visto aquilo que realmente se passa nas nossas escolas, nada pode ficar na mesma. A DREN, que já se devia ter ido embora no escândalo do professor Charrua, tem de sair porque aquela gente obviamente não sabe o que está a fazer. O Conselho Directivo da Carolina Michaëlis tem de ser imediatamente substituído por gente capaz de proibir telemóveis e de impor (não tenham medo da palavra), impor, um ambiente de estudo na escola pública. Reparem que durante o desacato e o linchamento da professora nenhum dos alunos abre a porta da sala de aulas e pede ajuda.
“Sai da frente… sai da frente!”
Isso atesta que já não ocorre aos próprios alunos que haja na escola alguém capaz de impor disciplina e restabelecer a ordem.
“Olha a velha vai cair!”
Por isto a Turma do 9.ºC tem de acabar! Por uma questão de exemplo, os alunos têm de ser dispersos por outras turmas e o 9.º C deve ficar com a sala fechada o resto do ano, numa admoestação clara de que este género de comportamento chegou ao fim. Maria de Lurdes Rodrigues não pode ficar à espera de receber outra vez o apoio do primeiro-ministro. Depois disto, é seu dever sair do cargo. E não é, como diz constantemente, a mais fácil das soluções. É a medida necessária para que haja soluções. A saída da ministra é, viu-se agora, uma questão de segurança nacional. É a mensagem necessária para a comunidade escolar, alunos e professores, entenderem que o relaxe, a desordem e o experimentalismo desenfreado chegaram ao fim. Que não há protecção política que os salve já da incompetência do Ministério, da DREN e de tudo o mais que nestes três anos nos trouxe à vergonhosa situação que o vídeo do YouTube mostrou ao país e ao Mundo. Uma questão mais os sindicatos viram as imagens de um crime a ser cometido em público contra uma professora. Façam o que devem. Façam as devidas queixas-crime contra a aluna agressora e contra quem filmou e usou abusiva e ilegalmente da imagem da professora a ser martirizada. O crime foi visto por todos. O Ministério Público tem competência para mover o adequado processo contra esses alunos. Cumpram o vosso dever sem tibiezas palavrosas. Já não se pode perder mais tempo com disparates.
Mário Crespo escreve no JN, semanalmente, às segundas-feiras
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Frases de estudantes
24 Março, 2008 · Sem Comentários
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Professora insultada, agredida e humilhada
20 Março, 2008 · 1 Comentário
Uma professora tirou o telemóvel a uma aluna de 9º ano pois esta estaria a brincar com ele durante a aula.
Não há respeito pelos professores e funcionários. Não há sanções apropriadas para quem tem extrema falta de educação e violência. NÃO ACONTECE NADA.
Fonte: Democracia em Portugal
Agora a minha pergunta à Sra. Ministra: “Qual é avaliação que espera esta professora? Será que ela age mal ou é a aluna? Como é que a Sra. reagiria nesta situação? No meu tempo isto daria suspensão ou até expulsão.“
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Faith
17 Março, 2008 · Sem Comentários
“[Shadrach, Meshach, and Abed-nego] knew that they could trust God–even if things didn’t turn out the way they hoped. They knew that faith is more than mental assent, more than an acknowledgment that God lives. Faith is total trust in Him.
“Faith is believing that although we do not understand all things, He does. Faith is knowing that although our power is limited, His is not. Faith in Jesus Christ consists of complete reliance on Him.”
Dennis E. Simmons, “But If Not . . .,” Ensign, May 2004, 73
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Lusitana Paixão
16 Março, 2008 · Sem Comentários
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Friends
13 Março, 2008 · Sem Comentários
–President Thomas S. Monson, Ensign, May 2001, 50
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Choices
5 Março, 2008 · Sem Comentários
Gordon B. Hinckley, “Stay on the High Road,” Ensign, May 2004, 112-113
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Protegido: Detesto quando aquela tipa quer sempre meter o bedelho!
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Iran: Two sisters face execution by stoning
28 Fevereiro, 2008 · Sem Comentários
Zohreh Kabiri-niat and her sister Azar (who is usually known as Akram) are facing execution by stoning, for “adultery,” a charge they deny. They were arrested on 4 February 2007 after claims that they had had “illicit relations”.They were initially sentenced, along with a third sister and two men, to flogging, with this sentence reportedly being carried out. However, a fresh charge of “committing adultery while being married” was then brought against Zohreh and Azar. They were both found guilty and their sentence of death by stoning was then approved by the Supreme Court.
Send an appeal to the Iranian authorities to stop the stoning of Zohreh and Azar Kabiti-niat
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New site about Jesus Christ
26 Fevereiro, 2008 · Sem Comentários
The new site about Jesus Christ is just gone live!
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7 tips om ruzie te voorkomen
23 Fevereiro, 2008 · Sem Comentários

Ruzie is geen prettige gebeurtenis. Het kan soms de situatie verergeren, omdat het gauw al lang niet meer gaat om de zaak zelf, maar om een reflex waarin we de aanval kiezen als verdediging. En hoewel meningsverschillen normaal en belangrijk zijn binnen een relatie, is ruzie nooit de oplossing van het probleem.
“Behandel anderen zoals je wilt dat ze jullie behandelen,” zegt Jezus (Lucas 6,31) Niemand vindt het prettig als een ander ruzie met je maakt. Dus als je deze regel toepast, zou er eigenlijk geen plaats in ons leven voor ruzie moeten zijn.
Hier zijn 7 tips om ruzie te voorkomen:
1. Leer actief te luisteren.
Wie antwoordt zonder eerst te luisteren, handelt dwaas (Spreuken 18,13)
Goede communicatie in een relatie betekent niet alleen dat je je goed kunt verwoorden, maar vooral dat je goed kunt luisteren. Probeer in je op te nemen wat de ander je zegt, en geef het terug om er zeker van te zijn dat je de boodschap begrepen hebt (“Ik hoor je zeggen dat … klopt dat?) Stel vragen als je het echt niet snapt. Let op de gevoelens die een ander uitdrukt, die zijn vaak belangrijker dan wat er precies gezegd wordt.
2. Blijf bij jezelf
Oordeel niet, dan zal er niet over je geoordeeld worden. Veroordeel niet, dan zul je niet veroordeeld worden. (Lucas 6,37)
Begin zinnen met “ik”: “ik voelde me genegeerd toen je..” in plaats van “je negeerde me…”. Het is soms moeilijk te bedoeling van een ander te beoordelen. Je weet soms niet waarom een ander op een bepaalde manier handelt, en als je een verkeerd oordeel velt, is de ander beledigd of verongelijkt. Maar je weet heel goed hoe je je voelt. Breng dat over.
3. Blijf in het heden
Blijf niet staan bij wat eertijds is gebeurd, laat het verleden nu rusten. (Jesaja 43,1
Haal geen oude koeien uit de sloot en generaliseer niet. Gebruik nooit woorden als “nooit”, “altijd”, “moet”, “elke keer”. Blijf in het heden. Oude koeien en beschuldigingen in algemene zin roepen altijd verdediging op of erger: een tegenaanval, maar ze leiden zelden tot begrip of inzicht.
4. Blijf bij de zaak
“Hoe meer hout, des te harder het vuur brandt, hoe hardnekkiger de ruzie, des te heviger ze wordt.” (Jezus Sirach 28,10)
Haal er niet van alles bij, blijf bij de ene zaak waar het meningsverschil over bestaat. Als je met allerlei andere verwijten en kwesties op de proppen komt, wordt de situatie onoverzichtelijker, de oplossing onwaarschijnlijker en de verdedigingsreflex van de ander sterker.
5. Stop voor je begint!
Wie een ruzie begint, ontketent een stortvloed; staak de strijd voordat hij losbarst. (Spreuken 17,14).
Als je voelt dat je overhit begint te raken is het beter om het strijdperk tijdelijk te verlaten om af te koelen voordat je terugkomt op het meningsverschil. Denk na over de oorzaak van je reactie. Waardoor werd je geraakt? Wat maakte het bij je los? Boosheid? Verdriet? Angst? Hoe kan ik in de toekomst voorkomen dat ik opnieuw zo van streek raak?
6. Los het probleem op
Wees eensgezind; wees niet hoogmoedig… vergeld geen kwaad met kwaad… overwin het kwade door het goede. (Romeinen 12, 16-21)
Doe er wat aan! Als je echt van streek bent door iets, stop het dan vooral niet weg. Koester geen wrok terwijl je niets onderneemt. Een probleem dat niet opgelost wordt, komt vanzelf weer terug. Als mensen ruzie maken, laat het zien dat er iets is dat voor beide personen belangrijk is (en dat is soms iets anders dan de aanleiding voor de ruzie). Dat moet je bij jezelf en bij de ander op het spoor zien te komen. Als je tot rust bent gekomen zijn er drie stappen die je moet zetten:
1. Beschrijf de situatie die het conflict veroorzaakte, zonder te oordelen – blijf bij een beschrijving van de feiten. Vraag of je weergave klopt met de waarneming van de ander.
2. Vertel de ander wat de situatie bij jou teweeg bracht. Blijf bij een weergave van je eigen gevoel en reactie. Geef de ander de ruimte om dit ook te doen.
3. Zeg hoe jij denkt te voorkomen dat het conflict in de toekomst terugkomt; vertel de ander wat jij nodig hebt. Vraag de ander hoe die het conflict wil oplossen.
7. Toch ruzie? Vergeef elkaar
“Vergeef, dan zal je vergeven worden.” (Lucas 6, 37)
Ondanks alle goede bedoelingen kan het toch voorkomen dat een ruzie ontstaat, en dat je elkaar kwetst. Laat het nooit “vanzelf” overgaan. Durf vergeving te vragen voor jouw aandeel in de ruzie. Dat is niet hetzelfde als je eigen mening aan de kant zetten of bakzeil halen! Vergeving vragen is een teken van kracht en moed, het kan het vertrouwen in elkaar herstellen.
Bron: Katholiekleven
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Líderes muçulmanos contra projecto para abolir mutilação genital feminina
21 Fevereiro, 2008 · Sem Comentários
Em conferência de imprensa realizada na quarta-feira, em Bissau, El Haj Abdou Bayo, presidente do Conselho Nacional Islamico (CNI), e Mustafa Rachid Djaló, presidente do Conselho Superior dos Assuntos Islamicos (CSAI), afirmaram ser contra qualquer discussão e eventual aprovação de legislação contra a prática «ancestral» da mutilação genital feminina.
De acordo com os dois dignitários islâmicos, os políticos guineenses «incorrem num grave erro e numa afronta ao Islão» se decidirem abolir um dos «sunnas», (mandamentos, em árabe) da religião muçulmana.
Na Guiné-Bissau, o Islamismo é a religião mais seguida, sendo praticada por cerca de 46 por cento da população.
O parlamento guineense, que se reúne em sessão plenária a partir do próximo dia 28, deverá debater uma proposta de lei apresentada pelo Instituto da Mulher e Criança (IMC) no sentido de ser adoptada legislação para abolir a prática da excisão no país, também conhecido pelo «fanado da mulher».
Segundo dados do IMC, só em Bissau e no ano de 2007 mais de quatro mil jovens foram sujeitas a excisão, situação que espelha o aumento da prática do «fanado» no país, apesar deste merecer a condenação da grande maioria da sociedade guineense.
Na opinião dos dois dirigentes religiosos, a prática do «fanado da mulher» é uma das recomendações constantes no Corão -livro sagrado dos muçulmanos - pelo que a sua abolição seria um «desrespeito» ao Islão.
O presidente da CNI apelou à classe política para que submeta o assunto a referendo, modalidade que não está prevista na Constituição guineense.
«Os políticos deviam ter o cuidado e levar esse assunto para um referendo nacional», disse El Haj Abdou Bayo.
Por seu turno, o presidente do CSAI acusou a classe política e as ONG de «atitudes contra o Islão» pela forma como têm tratado a questão de repatriamento de crianças talibés que são enviadas pelos pais para aprendizagem do Corão no Senegal.
Nos últimos meses, centenas de crianças guineenses foram repatriadas ou interceptadas na zona da fronteira entre a Guiné-Bissau e o Senegal.
A polícia e as organizações não governamentais locais dizem que estas crianças são escravizadas no Senegal ao invés de apreenderem o Corão.
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Sex and marriage
21 Fevereiro, 2008 · Sem Comentários
Today I read a very interesting post about sex and marriage. Please enjoy:
Growing up, I often heard people talking about sex as God’s gift to married couples. There was this joke tha