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On this Sabath Day I would like to share with you the 178th Conference of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints that took place last weekend in Salt Lake City, USA.

Today I read a very interesting post about sex and marriage. Please enjoy:

Growing up, I often heard people talking about sex as God’s gift to married couples. There was this joke that was often said, about how if God didn’t give married folks sex than they’d have nothing but misery. That concept of sex as a reward, or something to be earned, was something that irked me. I also heard a lot of, “sex is for procreation”, a phrase that would be uttered with a kind of derision that implied that sex was duty, and sex for recreation was just plain dirty. It would not be uncommon for me to hear the women at church talk about sex in tones of dreariness, talking about the “grossness” of sex, their boredom with it, the weariness of giving in to sex out of submission after a hard day’s work. I have to admit that I began to picture sex as a painful and horrible beast, the thought of genitalia made me a little nauseous, and I was relatively sure that sex was primarily about power.

Imagine my surprise, the first time someone really kissed me, and I enjoyed it. It was like a drug. It was like the veil over my eyes being shredded. I opened my eyes and I was sure that the sun was brighter and there was a chorus of angels singing and ten thousand birds had taken flight. I was astonished and horrified that such a wonderful sensation, the sensation of being needed and desired and reciprocating, was lost on all of the married women at church with their head coverings and china teacups. I’ve been married for six years, and sex for me has never once been primarily about procreation. I’ve seen sex as submission, sex as desire, sex as celebration, sex as recreation, sex as forgiveness, sex as power- but sex simply as procreation I have yet to see. I may not ever.

If you look at the Bible and find Song of Solomon, you’ll see these verses:

(song of solomon 7:7-9)

This may just be one girl’s opinion, but I’d say that couple was having some passionate sex. I have yet to find anywhere in the Bible where it says that taking enjoyment in each other is wrong.

Women involve their sex drive with their emotions. I think of the women who have passionless sex and I wonder what their relationship with their husbands is like. Do they give the same grudging submission in every aspect of their lives? Do they close their eyes and pray for it to be over when they’re at the dinner table? Sitting together at church? Going through the bills? Do they know what it is like to passionately share their husband’s life? Does he involve them in his private thoughts? Do they read and discuss the Bible together, or is he the priest of the house in cold detachment? I think that good sex is the natural bi-product of a good relationship. A couple that is devoted to each other, desires each other and sacrifices for each other is not going to end the day in tiring procreation, they are going to end the day in a celebration of the life they share.

There is nothing more sacred than a body, nothing more precious and personal than the parts of yourself you cover to live your daily life. To give to your spouse those parts of you that no one else sees, to allow entrance, to take and give: there is nothing greater. This gift should not be given grudgingly or out of duty, it should be given gladly and rejoiced in. Sex should be good. By learning to live with each other in every aspect of our lives, from the mundane to the holy to the inexplicable, that is the one way that we are given to fully understand unconditional love. This isn’t an opportunity that should be taken lightly. It shouldn’t be done dryly, it shouldn’t spurn tea-time conversations about the “burden of spousal duty”. If marriage is a metaphor for the Church’s relationship with Christ, would we want to picture ourselves at the church stirring sugar into our tea with a deep sigh, decrying that being united with Christ is unseemly?

Rejoice in each other, enjoy each other, take part in each other. It’s nice.

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